Mommy: Today let me copy and paste an e-mail from the teacher:
"She had a much better day today. She was very positive during math.
She even said at one point, 'Wow this is easy once you learn it.' I think
we'll see lots of great changes in the future."
If you know Daughter's struggle with math and her attitude toward it ... well, this is huge. HUGE.
So, that is the good news. The bad news is she forgot to bring home her math homework. You win some; you lose some.
I am trying to figure out how to help her organize herself without actually doing it for her (ie, put the homework in the backpack myself). I made her a very simple end-of-the-day checklist for school, but she is not using it consistently. We even have a reward system right now, and part of her reward is based on using the checklist each day. We're not there yet, but I'm not ready to give up on it.
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I've started to follow your learning curve with a lot of interest because I have a 14-yr-old who's not doing too great at school. We don't believe that in her case it's due to ADHD, but rather to something on the autistic spectrum.
ReplyDeleteWe have tried rewarding every good day at school by 1/5 of her weekly pocket money. That worked quite well for a long time, until she decided that her pocket money wasn't worth the effort anymore and she gladly settled for less hassle and less money...
Suzy Mom,
ReplyDeleteI wonder if you just need to change the reward? I know what works for a 10-year-old would be different than for a 14-year-old ... but what we're doing is a point system. She has a little daily report that the teacher fills out every day. We have identified the top three area she needs to work on:
1) Completed my morning work
2) Did my best concentrating in math
3) Did my best staying in my seat today
The teacher puts a smilie face on the ones she achieved for the day. She gets a point for each smilie face (nothing negative or taken away because she has enough anxiety right now, we're just focusing on positive).
So we have a little chart and each day she marks the points that she earned for the day (she gets a fourth point if she uses her checklist). Once she has earned 60 points, she gets to go on a special all-day outing with daddy that she's been wanting. We chose 60 because we think that's doable in about one month.
But what's funny, is she seems more driven to just earn a smilie face. They really make her feel good and she's always real proud of them. like I said, this would have to be adjusted to a 14-year-old level ... but maybe letting her earn a trip or outing would work??? I know our counselor said that reward systems have to be changed when the child tires of it, for what that's worth.
Thanks so much for reading and commenting!
Hi there! I'm so glad you found my ADHD & LD Resource Blog. I'm you'll visit often and find it useful in your journey. Just a word of encouragement.... 4th grade math almost killed our entire family last year... but we DID survive and you will too... promise!! I've really enjoyed reading your posts and will be back often. May I suggest another site that I think you would get a lot out of? It is Trusera.com. There is a wonderful ADHD community there. We all share insight and information and would love to have you join us as well. Take care. :)
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